When You Don't Want to Split Up with Friends
By Chelsie, age 13, South Wales, UK
Have you ever had the feeling that too many things go wrong in a friendship? I have.
Have you ever thought that your friends don't like you, but hang around with you anyway? I have.
Have you felt it's too hard to cope when they turn down a big girly night out with you? I have. It's just part of changing and adjusting.
As you get older, you mature more, and when you mature more, you sometimes feel that you need to do things on your own or with other people. If you feel this way about your friends or they about you, you should try and talk to them. No doubt it will turn into a little argument, but that way you can get your feelings out. But don't - I repeat, don't - call them names, backstab them, etc. It's hurtful. I've been there.
However, all of this can be dealt with. I'm not saying it's going to be completely easy, because it's not. But at least it could bring you together again instead of tearing you apart. I'm not going to tell you what to actually say, because what you say is your decision. It's never easy to confront a friend, as you don't want to say the wrong thing and upset her. But have you ever heard the saying Two wrongs don't make a right? All I'm saying is, maybe in this case two wrongs can make a right ... depending what the two wrongs are. So go ahead and give it a go. I've learned this over and over, and it gets me through things!
I hope this article helped you, and I hope you and your friend(s) sort things out.
With Love,
Chelsie <3