Male "Friend" Abuse: My Secret Life
Author's Name Withheld by Request
A few years back I got myself into a situation similar to Amy, a main character on the hit show The Secret Life of the American Teenager. Only mine didn't end as happily and didn't start quite the same way. Some of my memories are a bit fuzzy, and you'll understand why after my story is done.One day in January, 2007 my life changed, for better and worse. I was talked into losing my virginity to a friend. I was too young for this to happen, but that is not the point of this article. He was a great sweet talker and talked me into this particular situation. A few weeks after having lost my virginity to him I came to find out I was pregnant. This friend was a part of my life and the baby's life for a little while. I was pregnant long enough to find out we would be expecting a sweet baby girl.
Unfortunately things took a turn for the worse. I don't remember much about my pregnancy, nor do I have the photos to show you. My mother destroyed them to save me from the misery of losing my child. Yes, I said losing my child. On June 13th, 2007, about 5 months into my pregnancy, the father of my child spiked my drink with who-knows-what. I passed out and became greatly ill. I was hospitalized for about a month. I had to have my stomach pumped, and during the process of being drugged by the father I lost my baby.
My situation did not have a happy ending, and I deal with it as easily as I can, but I still have daily emotional struggles related to this traumatic time of my life. Like I said, my story isn't long and I don't remember much. All I remember is the tears I shed over the loss of my sweet little one.
Be careful what situations you get into. Happy endings don't always happen, especially like the ones shown on TV. Reality hurts more and reality has more troubles. Protect yourself. Don't let anyone take you for granted in any way. Being pregnant, being a young mother, and being a young woman losing your child can and will change you for the rest of your life.
