They're Not All the Same
By Shanice, age 15, South Africa
"How to Spot a Player." Now, I have still met players after that - far too many for my liking. In fact, I spent my summer dodging advances from several of their kind.
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The result? I made new male friends I knew were regular heartbreakers. But the best part for me was knowing that I had evaded heartache again.
Now I'm not saying that all males are bad. Yes, these guys were terrible. But the amount of concern my other male friends showed was astonishing. Being no stranger to the world of players, I knew what I was doing. I was confident that this time, the player would not win. My 'decent' male friends weren't so confident.
They went to the greatest extent possible to keep me away - distracting me, counseling me, etc. I was touched by the gesture. Yes, I was one of the many girls who had absolutely nothing nice to say about the male species. "Men are dogs" could possibly be my catchphrase. But after seeing how loyal my friends were to me, I'm starting to rethink it.
Yes, there are heartbreakers out there. I've lost count of how many I've encountered over this summer. But there are good guys out there. We tend to ignore them, either just seeing them as friends only or because we've been too hurt by the bad guys out there and we are too scared to try again.
Yes, they get hurt by us too. They have long-time crushes on girls. (I was shocked by this!) The thing is, guys are human, just like us. They have feelings, emotions, and a heart. They care. They love. They hurt.
So the next time you're about to mention how all males are the same, stop and really think about it. Is it possible that you're just hanging out with the wrong guys?