Sweet Advice

By Stephanie Lynn

Dating

Does He Feel the Same Way??

Ok, so I know this guy, and we've "hooked up" before. I have feelings for him, but I don't know if he feels the same about me. How can I see if he feels the same way??? PLEASE HELP!!
Nikki, 16

I know how you feel because the same thing is happening to me right now. Just try talking to him and develop a healthy relationship. You can't always tell when a guy likes you. Just be his friend and things will start to build on top of that.
Brennan

He Says I'm Stuck Up

Well ... I like this guy, but let's just say he's not the best guy ever! I haven't talked to him in a while because he called me a stuck-up. Am I overreacting, or should I just move on?
Ericka, 15

What you're doing now is just stating the obvious. He calls you stuck up. You get upset, and then you act stuck up. That accomplishes nothing, so prove him wrong and talk to him.
Elizabeth

You're not overreacting. The guy is a jerk - he called you a name. Don't keep holding on. He's just going to trample on you more! It hurts, I know, but lift your chin up and move on to the next. You deserve better!

Love,
Chloe

So ... it seems that this guy may really be interested in you, but once he said you were stuck up, well, that changes the whole story! He may be trying to play hard-to-get, but he can also just be a jerk who is afraid of himself and being around girls since he may not be such a hottie.

People who act in those ways aren't worth 'sessing over, and I think you should move on ... He's just a crush, and believe me, there are thousands of other fish in the sea that you don't know about yet ... So move on and let this guy be stuck up himself! He may one day realize how wrong he was calling you a stuck-up and may want to be with you himself! Till then I assure you there will be more guys to date and get to know for sure! Sorted!
Genny

We Agreed to Wait ... But Now It Feels Awkward

Hey, I have been going out with my boyfriend for about two weeks. Before we started dating we were best friends for about a year. We are both already comfortable with each other because we already know each other like the back of our hands. We are one.

Yesterday we went to the movies and things started heating up. We went back to his car. But then we both stopped what we were doing. I was nervous and scared at the same time. We didn't do anything, but it felt as if we did. I told him that I didn't want to rush into things with him. He agreed. He said, "I really care about you and I want to wait." I was a little confused.

But now it feels kind of awkward between us. I'm glad that he respects me. I just want to know if that was the right thing to do. Is it wrong that I already feel comfortable with him after two weeks?
Laura, 16

No, it isn't wrong. It's not something I would do or recommend, but this isn't about me. And if you 100% believed that when you both agreed in the back of the car that it wasn't the right time, then you shouldn't have doubts. Now it isn't right to think all about yourself, but you kind of have to put aside the fact that it might be a little awkward between you two. You have to respect and recognize and come to a decision about what you want, and not have doubts just because he doesn't agree with your decisions. If he doesn't agree then you shouldn't be with him anyway.
Bianca

You're asking "Is it okay to be so comfortable already?" Well, the answer is no. You guys have been friends for a while, so you already trust each other. However, you said things got a little heated already, which concerns me a little. Maybe if you were dating for some time, but you're sixteen and have only been dating two weeks. If things are getting this heated right away things can go bad later on. So be careful - don't do something you aren't ready for or aren't comfortable about doing.

If you do choose to take things to a new level make sure you take the right precautions. I know you have heard the sex talk before, but the issues (STD's, pregnancy, having sex you regret) are a lot more common than you think and can happen to anyone, even if you think, "Oh, it will never be me."

But if you are comfortable with the guy, then trusting him with your heart is okay. It is alright to feel a high degree of trust for him when there is a long history prior to your dating. Good luck.

Love,
Lauren

He's the Shy Type

So there's this guy, and I kind of think he likes me, but I don't know for sure. I don't talk to him, but I want to, and he seems like the shy type. I've tried messaging him on Myspace, and sometimes he writes back, but most of the time he doesn't write back. What should I do?
Jenny, 15

Just casually walk up and say hi and smile - leave a lasting impression on him. Make him think of you. Then, after a couple days, increase the chat with "How are you?" or "How's your day going?" If he mentions something about a class he was just in and you can relate to it, then you're on the way to a conversation. Little things that wouldn't seem important at the time could make for a short conversation that could lead to more. Don't rush him, just take things slow and at a steady pace. After a while, ask what he's doing on the weekend, and invite him to hang out with you and maybe a few friends. Most good relationships start with a good friendship.

Good Luck ;)
Mia C.

I'm going to give some straightforward simple advice. Everyone always says 'listen to your heart'. I think that's the best advice for your question. You just have to go with what your heart says.

Good luck,
Beth

Should We Give It Another Try??

Okay, so there's this boy I like ... a lot ... and he claims to like me too, but it seems it never works out. I'm sooo confused. I really like him. Should we give it another try??
Alisa, 15

If you both like each other, why not give it another try?!? And try to avoid the things that broke you guys up the first time. And if it doesn't work out this time, then maybe you two should just stick with being friends. Best of luck!!!

Love,
Kellie

Give it one more shot, and if it doesn't work out, just move on with it!!! Chances are if it doesn't work out the first time a second time won't work either. But different people could mean different things. Try it - that's the only advice to give. But if your heart's not in it, then don't waste your time.
Mia C.

I'm Too Shy to Tell Him

Okay. So I like this guy, but I'm too shy to tell him. We are friends, but don't talk a lot, and I think I should know more about him. Everyone says I should tell him, but I don't want it to be awkward. What should I do?
Kirstin, 14

You can still tell him you like him without being straightforward and making it awkward. Just be subtle with it. Hint around the fact that you like him, and try to find out if he likes you back. Now some guys just don't get it, and if he's one of those guys, then maybe you just need to listen to your friends and tell him. If he doesn't like you then at least you tried.
Bianca